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Misadventurous Melissa

Everyday is an adventure, or misadventure as the case may be. It is the latter that makes for the best stories, inspiring the name of my blog. I'm a nurse and an attorney (and way too silly sometimes). I am retired now. WELCOME to my blog! This is a work of fiction inspired by true events. The patients I refer to are a patchwork quilt of various patient's problems mixed together. If you think you recognize someone, you are wrong. These people do not really exist.

Sunday, January 24, 2010

Asking For Sexual Harassment


Every Friday, some of the nurses are expected to wear a t-shirt that has a green hand on each breast. No, it is not punishment. It is considered some kind of an honor and a mandatory duty to wear one of these tops for nurses belonging to a certain committee. Thank goodness I am not in that committee. I just borrowed a shirt for a minute to pose for the picture. I wanted you to see how offensive it is.
I honestly don't know if whoever designed the shirt was naive or deliberately wanted something sexually provocative to get people's attention. What has happened is that every Friday, about thirty nurses are sexually harassed and teased. One doctor asked if he could put his hands on the nurse's hands, while staring at her breasts. A male coworker, who has always been a complete gentleman, commented that the shirt made him want to put his hands on our breasts. All day long, the nurse victims have to endure the comments and stares.
Sometimes, it is hard to say if something constitutes sexual harassment, but in my opinion, this is clearly over the line. If someone is forced to wear something that exposes them to unwanted sexual comments and stares, than it is sexual harassment. If we worked for Hooters, it would be different, but we are serious health care workers who should be shown respect for our hard work and compassion, not treated like bimbos. No, I'm not saying that Hooter's waitresses are bimbos, it's just that we have worked too hard to have men joking about wanting to touch our breasts.
It is hard for me to ignore this kind of thing, so I have been talking to every t-shirt wearing nurse I can find. They tell me their stories of abuse and I tell them other nurses' stories. I'm not giving legal advice, but I'm making sure they know that they don't have to put up with this.
With the managers who made this bonehead decision and also wear the shirts, I've been passive-aggressive. With a smile and a pleasant sing-song voice, I'll ask them how many people teased them today.
I don't know if it was my doing or if everyone suddenly came to their senses, but last Friday, I didn't see a single hands-on-breasts shirt. So, what do you think? Am I just an old fuddy duddy, or are these shirts offensive?


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6 Comments:

At 1/24/2010 08:14:00 PM, Blogger Mahala said...

Oh those shirts are asking for it.

 
At 1/24/2010 10:25:00 PM, Blogger Irene said...

Offensive. At first I was not sure what it said at the top until I clicked on it and saw the larger photo. Seriously? This is supposed to get people to wash their hands? I thought it had to do with breast self examine or something but then the hands would be pink and it would still be offensive - "I'll be happy to examine your breasts for you", etc. Good for you hopefully getting people to see the light.

 
At 1/25/2010 04:57:00 AM, Blogger marian said...

absolutely offensive. glad you are speaking up.

 
At 1/29/2010 10:26:00 AM, Blogger Jen said...

As a fellow healthcare worker, the shirts are offensive. I would be going right to administration & letting them hear what is going on. Maybe even risk management.

We all know to wash our hands...we don't need sexually suggestive t-shirts to remind us to do so.

 
At 2/07/2010 02:14:00 AM, Blogger Tina said...

I totally thought of breat when I seen this shirt! I mean washing hands is not what I was thinking. "Grabbing breast with hands, yeah" And I am a ministers wife!!! NOT MY COMMON THOUGHT PROCESSESS!! They ought to be done away with revamped or something.
ChristinaB (prenursing student)
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At 2/21/2010 04:40:00 PM, Blogger Melissa said...

Mahala, Irene, Marian, Jen and Christenab thank you for your comments. I'm glad that others think like me.

 

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