Hard Times In The Dating World
I have an odd question that I would like to ask my fellow bloggers. I'm not naming names. I want to keep this a hypothetical question, but it is a real situation.
When a man occasionally has a three-some involving one woman and two men and the men "play with each other", are the men necessarily gay? Or, is this "not about having sex with a man, but having sex and it just happens to be with a man"?
The person who told me about this, sees it as just being adventurous. I see it as a way for a man to have gay sex and remain in denial about his sexual preference. What do you think?
Are there any decent men left in this world?
Written by Melissa on 7:31 PM
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Wow! Maybe the man is not gay, but bisexual. Bisexuality has an "adventurous" feel to it, lol. That is, unless the men pay no attention to the woman and use her only as an excuse to get together. Listen to me blabber about something I know nothing about! I'm interested in seeing other people's opinions. I do think that threesomes are not always a good idea. The potential exists for one of the partners to become romantically involved with the guest they are bringing into their relationship. It may have no effect on "people who have a strong and trusting relationships", but I'm not buying it.
Sorry if I offended anyone who chooses to have this kind of lifestyle. My opinion is just that; mine. Now I sound like some close-minded IL hillbilly. ;-)
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it doesn't mean the man is gay or that the sex is "gay sex". I agree w/ the above comment. I could be anything really... who really knows.?
Richard, right? I knew it. Run!
Maybe the guy was just feeling adventurous, or was drunk or high. If the guy has a strong preference for women, and only dabbles "on the other side" once in a blue moon, that doesn't sound homosexual to me. (Not that there's anything wrong with that!) Just a little bi. But what do I know? If I were in a threesome I'd be pretty much ignoring the other guy, and wondering why the threesome couldn't have been with two women instead of two guys. :)
Anon #1, I think along similar lines. I guess I'm old fashioned too.
Anon #2, I guess it depends on how often these three-somes take place and exactly what they are doing to each other. I couldn't get a straight answer on that. My concern is that the three-some is just an excuse to have gay sex.
Anon #3, no comment and I already have.
Dave, if it happened once or twice, I could explain it away, but this is an ongoing thing. Whether it is once in a blue moon or every weekend is an unknown. At the very least, I think he is bi. Not that there is anything wrong with being gay or bi, but I don't want to be involved with a man who cannot be quite satisfied with a woman. It has disaster written all over it.
As far as I can tell, it appears you could possibly be dreaming. You're at the dog pound.....picking out a new dog. Did you by any chance get your dog from the pound?
Woah! Somebody stop this crazy dream and let me off! LOL!
Anon, I wish this were a dream. One of my dogs came from the pound, but this guy is a pedigree with papers.
Marc, what can I say? Thanks for the flowers.
Well, wait a second. Who said the flowers were for you?
Marc, I guess I'm an optimist. When florists bring flowers to our patients, I assume they must be for me. ;)
My guess would be that the guy is either gay or bisexual. A guy with none of those tendencies would not touch another man's private parts. JMO.
Lisa, it has been my experience that most men are horrified at the thought of touching another man there. I agree that absence a lot of booze or a gun to the head, straight men won't have sex with other men.
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